Moms Of Faith

Domestic Abuse Awareness Month

Posted on: October 25, 2007

As the month of October ends, I am reminded that October is Domestic Abuse Awareness Month. As a product of child abuse that was “caused” by my mother facing domestic violence from my stepfather, I am painfully aware of the effects this abuse causes. I am a mother of two beautiful girls whom I adore, but I still find myself being mindful of how I discipline. I would NEVER want my children to feel the way I did growing up. One of my most vivid memories is PRAYING that God would remove me from this situation and allow me to live with my father. Knowing now what my mother also went through as a result of the abuse she was facing makes me a HUGE adovcate of changing our laws and protecting our family (at home and around the world.)

Few of us realize that at least one in every three women has been beaten, coerced into sex or otherwise abused during her lifetime. That means if you have more than two women in YOUR family, one of them has been or will be abused in their lifetime. Sadly, the statistics show that more than one third of American women will be abused by a someone they love* and nearly 25 percent of women in America report raped or physically assaulted by a current or former spouse, cohabiting partner, or date at some time in their lifetime.* Though women are seven to 14 times more likely than men to report suffering severe physical assaults from an intimate partner*, please don’t think that this crime is gender specific. 835,000 men are physically assaulted by an intimate partner annually in the United States.* In a national survey of more than 6,000 American families, 50 percent of the men who frequently assaulted their wives also frequently abused their children. Our children not only see this abuse happening, they FEEL it happening. Even if they are not physically abused, just seeing their parent or guardian abused inflicts terrible mental and verbal abuse. How many of us just look the other way when we see the bruises or turn the radio/television louder when we hear the yelling and screams? If you do, YOU are guilty also. No, you didn’t raise your hand to the abused, but you didn’t do your part to stop the violence.

If you or someone you love is being abused, please get help NOW! Don’t wait until it gets worse! Talk to someone you trust such as a friend or relative, someone from your job, or a trusted member of your house of worship. Put together a kit with all the things you would need to leave the house quickly including identification, money, medicine, and keys. Call the National Domestic Violence Hotline at (800) 799-SAFE (799-7233) to find out where the nearest domestic violence shelter or program is located. If you feel that your life or your children’s lives are in danger CALL THE POLICE immediatly. Remember you are the expert in your life, don’t let anyone coerce you into something that’s not right for you. There is NO excuse for domestic violence. If you are in a violent relationship, one of the most important steps you can take is to make a saftey plan for your home. You can find suggestions for your own Personal Safety Plan visit

For more information on Domestic Violence, visit these sites:

* Statistics can be found at


1 Response to "Domestic Abuse Awareness Month"

We adopted a son that was abused so this subject is near to my heart. I hope people who are in bad situations get help and your blog might help save one reader or maybe more. Isn’t that great?
Debbie aka The Real World Martha

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